Critics #2: Here are 5 more reminders from Reggie McNeal on growing via your critics.
1. Seek Good Advice. Start by giving a few godly people the right to tell you the truth… anytime it’s needed.
2. Look in the Mirror People appreciate a leader who owns his mistakes (& corrects them quickly) vs. blaming others. Also a leader who’s aware of his own emotional “hot buttons” (vs. giving in to them.)
3. Refuse to Lash Out. Speaking the truth without “venting” your emotions tells people they can trust your leadership in a difficult situation. Guess what the opposite approach will do.
4. Insist on Forgiveness. Refusal to forgive binds you to a cycle of perpetual hurt. Forget about who deserves what, and opt for the freedom that allows you to move forward.
5. Decide to Grow. Growing via criticism requires a conscious decision to submit to spiritual surgery (without “anesthesia” & in full view of the world.) Give God full access to your heart.
Bringing Out the Best: Just finishing The Talent Code, by Daniel Coyle. He talks about the physiological realities underlying an ability to reach greatness – whether in music, sports, writing, etc. Turns out it’s not just about genetics. People who arrive @ greatness all use similar pathways (which ultimately rewire their brains for a different level of performance.) Here are the pathways:
- Deep Practice (The way you practice – not just how much you practice - matters.)
- Ignition (It’s demanding. Without something that inspires/ignites hope, people usually quit.)
- Master Coaching (The most gifted person won’t get there on his own.)
What does this tell you about developing your own potential? What does it tell you about developing the people/potential leaders in your church?
“Sobering” Thought: We lost one of our pastors to suicide this week. He was doing a great job… rightly dividing the Word, sharing Jesus, loving his people, & working hard. But in the end a private battle – one few people perceived – overwhelmed him. 1 Pet. 5:8 comes to mind… the part about an adversary “seeking someone to devour.”
We’re all targets. Building great relationships… getting away from the grind… hearing God’s voice… & feeding your own soul… aren’t luxuries “if you have time” in the ministry. They’re what it means to be “sober & vigilant.”
Praying for you this weekend. Nobody is sufficient for the message of Easter. Hope God takes your human words & transforms them into something more. Also praying God gets ahold of your heart again… and you’re overwhelmed before Sunday comes.
Blessings,
Jojo